it’s time to be civil (28)

 

# 19. Care for your guests. …

” … to entertain a guest is to make yourself responsible for his happiness.” (Anthelme Brillat-Savarin) Certainly you want your guests to have the best and most comfortable of times. Commit yourself to their well-being, keeping in mind that sometimes small details make the difference. …

… at snack time, refrain from asking if anybody would like anything to eat. Just put the food out and offer it. Then everybody will freely decide whether to have some.

Your guests shouldn’t feel that they must earn your hospitality. Don’t show a guest who is a physician your skin rash or ask a lawyer how you can incorporate your business. If you need to tap their professional expertise, call them the next day at the office. … Your dinner guests are under no obligation to help you in the kitchen either before or after the meal. If they offer to and you are comfortable with it, accept with a simple thank-you.

Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni (St. Martin’s Press, 2002); pp. 122-123

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