it’s time to be civil (17)


# 8. Accept and give praise. … Here are a few reasons to engage in the generous form of attention that is praise: * By sharing with others how we feel about them, we let them know something about ourselves and strengthen the bonds between us in the process. * By saying, ‘What you are doing is wonderful,’ we encourage those who are doing the wonderful thing to keep doing it. Maybe in a small way, we become responsible for the continued existence of something wonderful. * Many are unaware of their own gifts and may not realize how outstanding those gifts are. Through our praise we reveal to people who they are. * Giving praise we nurture others’ self-esteem, a crucial factor in their emotional well-being.”

Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni (St. Martin’s Press, 2002); p. 70