it’s time to be civil (9)


“In order to be healthy, we need to live among others. Since social integration is healthful, social skills – the skills that make social integration possible – are utterly relevant to our health. When we are skilled in managing our relationships, we are far more likely to build and maintain a network of support. Far from just being a matter of good form, civility is also a matter of good health. Quite simply: being good is good for you. To stay healthy we need to perceive our lives as having purpose and meaning linked to the presence of others in our lives. All the more important, then, that we learn how to treat them fairly, respectfully, and considerately. As we do, it becomes clearer and clearer that civility is the place of encounter between self and other where altruism and self-interest find a harmonious way to coexist.”

Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni (St. Martin’s Press, 2002); p. 30

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