Radical honesty is complete honesty about one’s feelings, past experiences, present activities, and future plans. It is essential in marriage because it provides a clear road map for marital adjustment, meets an important emotional need, and prevents massive Love Bank withdrawals.
There are four types of dishonesty in marriage: (1) protection, (2) looking good, (3) avoiding trouble, and (4) compulsion.
Honesty is not a Love Buster. When thoughtless behavior is revealed, it’s the thoughtless behavior, not honesty, that causes unhappiness.
Avoid wrapping the Policy of Radical Honesty in the Love Buster’s of selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, or angry outburst.
Encourage your spouse to be honest by valuing honesty consistently and by avoiding punishment of honesty.
Remember to reveal to your spouse as much information about yourself as you know: your thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities, and plans for the future.
Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love by Willard F. Harley, Jr. (Revell, 2005), p.130