Q. “There is a good, faithful brother belonging to a church in this section. He is about forty-five or fifty years of age. It was proposed to appoint him a deacon of the church, but another brother objected on the ground that he had no wife. He is a bachelor. Is the objecting brother right?”
A. “We do not think that language [1 Timothy 3:8-13] intended to require they should be married and have children; but as that was the common state of man, directions were given as to what kind of wives and children they should have. If it was prohibitory, Paul was unfit for a deacon, and he recommended that those who could restrain their passions should refrain from marriage that they devote themselves exclusively to the service of God. That construction would present the case that Paul (1 Cor. 7:30-35) recommended them to pursue a course to fit them for service of God; yet the course that he recommended prohibited their doing the service in some important functions and positions.”
Questions Answered by Lipscomb and Sewell edited by M.C. Kurfees (McQuiddy Printing Co, 1921); p.164
Note: “Lipscomb” is “David Lipscomb” and “Sewell” is “Jesse P. Sewell,” prominent leaders in the Restoration Heritage, particularly Churches of Christ, in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s in the United States.